Who Moves for Love? - 🎄 Day 2 of the Compatibility Checklist

This is day 2!!! How was day 1? Did it get you thinking?

Hi guys, welcome to Day Two of the compatibility checklist!

I hope Day One didn’t feel like an exam.

This list isn’t meant to interrogate anyone; it’s intended to spark easy, playful, flowing conversations. The kind you weave naturally into your day, the kind that feels light but meaningful.

Today’s topic is a big one…

Where would you live if things progressed?

Let’s talk about who moves for whom and what that really means.

The Real “Where Would We Live?” Conversation

It’s so easy to say,

“Oh, I don’t mind moving,”

But moving isn’t just about packing boxes; it’s about shifting your entire life.

If you’re dating someone in another country, another state, or even another city, these are questions worth exploring early:

Who moves?

Who leaves their job?

Who leaves their family, friends, and support system?

Who steps away from everything familiar to start again?

What does life look like on the other side?

Before anyone makes a big move, talk about:

Job opportunities in the new city

The kind of lifestyle you’ll both afford

Whether your current career path still makes sense there

What the local community is like

What would social life, church life, or family life look like

Whether the environment aligns with your values and personality

What happens to your assets?

If one or both of you own property:

Do you sell?

Do you rent it out?

Do you keep it as a backup plan?

What’s the long-term intention?

Try before you move

One of the best approaches?

Spend a few weeks in each other’s cities.

Get a feel for the pace, people, culture, and lifestyle.

Sometimes a city looks perfect online but feels completely different in person.

It’s not about pressure, it’s about clarity.

Keep It Light, Keep It Warm

Don’t approach this conversation like you’re negotiating a contract.

Smile. Tease. Play.

Let it flow naturally, like:

“Babe, if you had to pick between Lagos and London for us, which one wins and why?”

“Should we test-run each other’s cities? I want to see if your city likes me.”

The goal isn’t to make decisions immediately.

The goal is to open the door to deeper communication.

If you can navigate these questions together, slowly and gently, then when life throws real decisions at you, you’ll already have the foundation to handle them.

Extra Tips for This Conversation

1. Start light.

Begin the conversation with laughter or curiosity, not anxiety.

2. Talk long-term AND short-term.

Some moves are temporary, while others are stepping stones.

3. Be honest about your non-negotiables.

If you need community, say it.

If you need career stability, say it.

4. Think beyond romance.

You’re not just choosing a person, you’re choosing a life.

 5. Keep reminding each other:

“This conversation is meant to bring us closer, not stress us out.” Take breaks if it becomes stressful. 

Can't wait to share day 3.

With Love,

Ayo

Missed Day 1, Compatibility Checklist