Happy New Month, Beautiful People. It’s Officially Holiday Season!
Day 1 of the 25 Day Compatibility Check
Hello guys!
Happy new month! Oh my goodness, it is officially the holiday season. I don’t know why I waited until December 1st to say it, but yes, it’s here. The lights, the warmth, the soft slowdown, the cosy evenings, everything.
And because this is the season where life starts winding down, projects wrap up, and companies slow their pace, I thought this would be the perfect time to talk about the things we often run away from, shy away from, or even pretend we have done when we actually haven’t.
So this month, I am giving you something special:
The 25 Day Compatibility Checklist
A gentle, honest series of conversations you and your partner should start exploring before settling. These are the conversations that reveal who you both are, how you think, how you communicate, and how you work together to compromise.
And no, these conversations don’t require the two of you to sit down with a pen and notepad, as if it were an interview. You can weave them into your day, your chats, your calls, little by little.
The goal is to help you see each other more clearly.
To reveal things about them and even about yourself that you didn’t know you needed to consider.
To demonstrate how you both handle differences, opposite opinions, and real-life decisions beyond the butterflies.
Because let’s be honest, it is all cute until it is:
Manchester vs. London, where will we live?
Old buildings vs. new built, who is compromising?
Spender vs. Saver, who keeps the finances steady?
“I like this.” “I don’t like that.” What now?
These things matter.
And the holiday season is the perfect time to have the conversations that bring clarity, not confusion.
So let’s start.
Day 1: Health. The Green, Amber and Red Guide
When I think about health, I like to break it down into three simple categories:
Green, Amber and Red.
🟢 Green – Long Term Conditions
These are things you should share before the relationship reaches its most serious phase.
Not on day one, not on date two, but in the stage where both of you know you are building something real.
Your partner deserves to know the reality of the journey they are stepping into so they can decide whether they are ready to support you.
🟠 Amber – Serious But Manageable
These aren’t long-term diagnoses, but they are health matters that can affect the other person in some way.
These ones should definitely be disclosed because they can alter daily life, shared plans or the way you both navigate certain things together.
🔴 Red – Everyday Impact and Immediate Risk
This includes things like:
nut allergies
pear allergies
food sensitivities
triggers
health reactions
conditions that could affect your day-to-day functioning
These are non-negotiables when it comes to sharing simply because your partner might need to act fast in emergencies or adjust certain habits for your safety.
💡 Please remember
This is not about meeting someone on Hinge today and sharing your full medical file tomorrow.
This is not for situationships.
This is not for “we are just talking.”
This is for relationships with direction.
Relationships where both of you understand that you are walking towards each other with intention.
Sometimes, a relationship can reach that point quickly, especially if you live in close proximity.
Sometimes it moves slowly, especially if you live far apart.
So there is no timeline.
Just discernment.
The point is that once it is serious, these are conversations that help you manage difficult things well.
They help you see:
how your partner communicates
How you both handle uncomfortable truths
How you survive opposite opinions
What you are willing to compromise
and what you absolutely cannot
Because compromise only works when both people know what they are working with.
So here’s to a beautiful December
A month of softness.
A month of clarity.
A month of love conversations that strengthen you rather than confuse you.
Because it is the season of love.
And guess what
This month, I am going to be all lovey-dovey.
Lovey lovey lovey dovey.
That is me, with love.
Ayo ♡
Welcome to Day 1.
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