Now let me be honest, I didn’t properly sit down to watch it (you already know I don’t do TV like that 😄). It was on, and I was just passing through… in and out… catching bits here and there.
But even from that?
The story pulled me in.
The Rabbit Hole Is Real
What started as “background noise” quickly turned into one of those wait… what actually happened here? moments.
The docuseries focuses on Caroline and the two brothers, Richard and Andrew, but what really caught my attention is that this story doesn’t just live on Netflix.
There’s more.
There’s a BBC documentary often referred to as The Missing Cyclist investigation which follows how the case unfolded in real time. Find it here.
A deep dive into the emotional side of it all, including how the wife reportedly waited every single day… sleeping on the sofa, hoping he’d return.
That part?
That stayed with me.
What Didn’t Sit Right With Me
Let’s talk about something that genuinely annoyed me.
The way Caroline was treated.
There seemed to be this underlying assumption that because she was well-educated because she had a doctorate, she didn’t need help.
As if intelligence cancels out vulnerability.
As if being “strong” means you’re immune to emotional distress.
That logic?
It doesn’t sit right.
At all.
Because someone can:
* Be educated
* Be successful
* Be composed
…and still be struggling deeply.
Strength Is Not the Absence of Pain
This is the part that really hit home for me.
So many people walk around being labelled “strong.”
I hear it all the time:
“You’re so strong.”
“You handle so much.”
And yes… that might be true.
But here’s the thing nobody says enough:
Strong people still need support.
Some days, it’s not about being admired for strength.
It’s about someone simply asking:
“Are you okay?”
“How are you really doing?”
Not assuming.
Not projecting.
Just checking in.
Final Thoughts
Whether you start with the Netflix docuseries or the BBC investigation… this story will pull you in.
But beyond the crime itself, there’s a deeper conversation here about:
* Assumptions we make about people
* How we define strength
* And how often we overlook those who seem “fine”
If You’re Watching This…
If you’ve seen it (or you’re about to go down the rabbit hole this weekend 😄), I want to know:
What stood out to you the most?
And more importantly…
Did it change how you think about “strong” people?
With Love,
Ayo
I’m still making sense of it all
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