How to Create Closeness in a Relationship: Our Intentional Date Day in Liverpool

Hi guys,

So recently, Babe and I made a decision, one that I think every couple should consider.

We’re committing to a date night every two weeks.

Not random. Not when we “feel like it.”

Intentional.

One date he plans. One date I plan.

And because you know me… I couldn’t just leave it as a date night.

I turned mine into a full date day experience.

Because if we’re doing this, we’re doing it properly.

Why Intentional Time Matters

Life gets busy. Work, kids, responsibilities,it’s so easy to become functional partners instead of connected partners.

So this isn’t just about going out.

It’s about:

* Reconnecting

* Learning each other again

* Creating new memories

* And actually enjoying each other’s presence

The Plan: Our Liverpool Date Day

1. Starting with Matching Outfits (Yes, I Did That 😌)

We’re starting the day in matching outfits, I got us one 😜.

Not because we have to but because it creates a vibe.

It sets the tone: today is different.

It’s playful. It’s intentional. It’s us choosing each other, out loud.

Our matching piece 

2. The Drive: Turning Travel Into Connection Time

We’re driving to Liverpool, but this isn’t just a journey. it’s part of the experience.

I’ve planned a couple of fun things for the car:

* Throwback music game (2020 hits 🎶)

* Who knows the lyrics better (yes, I plan to win)

* Light “get to know you” questions

Because here’s the truth:

Closeness isn’t built in big moments, it’s built in small, consistent ones.

3. Spa Time (Soft Life Activated)

First stop: the spa. 

Remember my new swimsuit? I’m not ready (the unveil😜).

We’ve never done a spa together before, so this is a shared first experience, and that matters.

There’s something about:

* Slowing down together

* Being present without distractions

* Just relaxing side by side

That builds a different kind of intimacy.

Also… I’m not going to lie. I’m excited about the matching robes 😄

4. Lunch Date (Because Food = Love)

After the spa, we’re heading out for lunch.

I’m thinking Italian (because pasta will always have my heart).

And if you know me:

* Starter = calamari

* Sauce = garlic/basil situation (if you know, you know)

It’s not just about eating, it’s about sitting across from each other and actually talking.

No rushing. No distractions. No kids. 

5. Wandering & Window Shopping

After lunch, we’re keeping it light:

* Walking around

* Window shopping

* Maybe buying something small or big 👀

* Maybe not

This part is important because it removes structure.

It allows for natural moments, the kind you don’t plan.

6. Go-Karting (Let the Competition Begin 😏)

Now this… this is where things get interesting.

We’re going go-karting.

Why?

Because:

* We’ve never done it together

* It’s fun

* We are both competitive

And let me just say this

we can’t even play board games because someone likes to cheat (I won’t name names 😂)

So this is our chance to settle it… properly.

What This Date Is Really About

Yes, it’s fun.

Yes, it’s planned.

But deeper than that, it’s about:

* Being intentional with love

* Creating space for connection

* Choosing each other on purpose

Because relationships don’t just grow on their own.

They grow where effort is placed.

If You Want to Try This

You don’t need Liverpool.

You don’t need a spa.

You don’t need a full day.

What you do need is intention.

Start with:

* A planned day (or even a few hours)

* Something fun

* Something calm

* Something new

And most importantly, presence.

No phones!!!!!

Final Thought

Closeness doesn’t just happen.

It’s created.

In the conversations.

In the laughter.

In the shared experiences.

And sometimes… in a go-kart race you fully intend to win 😉

If you try your own version of a date day, I’d love to hear what you plan 💛

With Love,

Ayo

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