Why Fashion Is My Favourite Form of Self-Care

My weekend reset is happening on a Friday evening because I’m busy all weekend. 

This weekend, I’m hosting an event: a Spider-Man themed 5-year-old’s party. It’s no longer just balloons and aesthetics; it’s structure, planning, delegation, and growth. And honestly? I thank God for giving me the wisdom to build systems early, because expansion without structure is anxiety waiting to happen.

This season feels safe.

It feels intentional.

And I love it.

But here’s the thing, this weekend reset isn’t actually about events.

It’s about fashion.

At the beginning of the year, I said I wasn’t coming to play and I meant it. I’ve started planning outfits from Monday to Sunday, intentionally laying out looks for specific days because I hate repetitive dressing. My wardrobe is now organised with purpose, not chaos, and it’s doing wonders for my mood.

The dilemma started with a simple question:

What am I wearing to church on Sunday?

I love minis, the energy, the confidence, the way they make me feel. But church is different. Not because of rules, but because of comfort. So I lean towards mid-length skirts and pencil silhouettes.

I recently bought the most beautiful blue striped mid-length skirt, structured, elegant, slightly pencil. I paired it with a crisp white shirt that has just enough edge, and honestly? It’s perfection.

But of course… I wanted more.

I tried a structured check blazer with a different skirt and the look? Unreal.

Work-ready. Fashion-forward. It’s giving a model vibe.

That outfit is officially being saved for a business day. If I wore it to church, I just wouldn’t feel settled especially with sheer details and subtle slits that deserve their own moment.

What I’ve realised is this:

fashion genuinely resets me.

The joy in this chaos is unreal! 

No matter how heavy my thoughts feel, heels, tights, sunglasses, lingerie, textures, silhouettes, glass of pineapple juice 😜, they lift me. Dressing up turns me into a lighter version of myself. The sexy Engineer and I love it. 

I’m even flirting with the idea of bringing heels back into my work life. The train complicates things, yes. Flats-then-heels feels criminal to me (either wear heels or don’t 😭), but I miss that version of myself who walked confidently in them everywhere.

Maybe this year I’ll document it more.

Full outfits. Videos. Lots of pictures.

Because selfies don’t tell the whole story.

All I know is this: I love this freedom. I love dressing without apology. I love being excited about what I’ll wear weeks from now. And I love that I’m finally allowing myself to enjoy it fully.

So if you’re reading this, here’s my question for you:

What’s that one thing that lifts your mood instantly, no matter how heavy life feels?

Whatever it is, do more of it this weekend.

Happy resetting 

Ayo ❤️