There are moments in life when an illusion you didn’t even realise you were still holding onto just… shatters.
Completely.
That happened to me recently through something as random and unserious as Snapchat.
Let me explain.
For years, and I mean years, there was someone I carried in my mind as the definition of handsome.
Dark Chocolate.
Dashing.
Effortlessly stylish.
One of those people who just knew how to wear clothes, how to walk into a room, how to exist.
In my head, he was everything.
And then one random scroll later, I saw a colour photo of him for the very first time on Snapchat.
And wow.
The illusion didn’t just crack; it collapsed.
Suddenly, I understood why every photo I’d ever seen had been black and white.
But before you judge me, let me take you back because I know you’re probably confused right now.
Back to 2005
I was in high school.
Phones weren’t even allowed.
But, you know… we were sneaky.
I swapped phones with a friend for the night, let’s call him Teddy. His phone could do way more than mine, so naturally, I was excited just playing around with it.
Then a call came in.
Let’s call the caller John.
I answered, explained that I’d swapped phones with Teddy, and that he could probably reach him the next day. That should have been the end of it.
But then… he spoke.
You know how voices over the phone can sound softer, sweeter, almost romantic?
Yeah. That kind of voice.
We started talking.
And talking.
And talking.
Hours passed like minutes.
We were in the same city, yet we never met. And back then, before social media, before FaceTime, before constant visibility, it was completely possible to build a connection on nothing but voice and imagination.
And I did.
Oh, I really did.
In my teenage mind, he became the guy of my dreams.
Crazy😂😂😂
Fast-Forward to 2026
The first time I actually saw him, properly saw him, was this year.
And my first thought was:
“What the f*ck?”
Not in a mean way.
Not in a bitter way.
Just… pure shock.
This was the person I was crushing on in 2005?
This?
And that’s when it hit me.
I finally understood the phrase love is blind.
If you’ve ever watched Love Is Blind, you’ll get it. People fall deeply for voices, conversations, and emotional intimacy, only to meet face-to-face and realise the attraction doesn’t translate physically.
And here’s the thing we don’t talk about enough:
That’s okay.
Feelings matter.
Connection matters.
But attraction matters too.
One doesn’t cancel out the other.
No Hard Feelings, Just Growth
This was just… eye-opening.
A reminder of how easy it is to project everything you want onto someone you’ve never met.
How powerful imagination can be.
How we fall in love with potential, not reality.
And how meeting reality doesn’t make you shallow.
It just makes you honest.
Hello, It’s Abii
If you’ve been following the Abii stories, then hi, it’s me.
I’ve been a little quiet.
I took a break.
But I’m back.
Back to writing.
Back to sharing the in-betweens.
Back to taking you along my love journey, the funny parts, the embarrassing parts, the reflective parts.
This is just one of those stories.
And trust me…
There are many more to come.
With love,
Abii ♡
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